Ghosting is a passive way to end a relationship abruptly by cutting off all communication, leaving the other person confused, without an explanation. Some people try to justify ghosting as a way to end involvement without hurting the feelings of others, whereas some say that people who ghost others are selfishly focused on themselves and show their own inability to communicate directly and clearly. Ghosting has become more common in dating ever since the rise of dating apps and social media.
Why do people ghost others?
It is easier for them to ghost than to handle the emotions and conflicts.
It seems easier than confrontation.
They don’t want to have an uncomfortable conversation.
They cannot face and resolve conflicts.
They have low emotional maturity or intelligence.
How to respond when someone ghosts you
I know it is really confusing and hard to take in why that person ghosted you. Sometimes we just wonder, “Did we do anything wrong?” We begin to question ourselves for not knowing the reason.
Let me tell you something.
1. It’s okay to feel sad.
Allow yourself to grieve and accept the truth that they just disappeared without telling you the reason. Do not try to bottle up your feelings. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. It’s okay to feel sad and accept it. If someone chooses silence, it’s a clear sign they aren’t emotionally available to you.
2. You need to be clear that it’s not about you.
The person who ghosted you is not ready to communicate with you or even talk to you directly. When someone ghosts you, it’s not a reflection of who you are; rather, it shows what kind of person they are.
3. It is their loss.
You deserve someone who sees your worth. Don’t let anyone make you feel any less than that. If someone ghosts you, don’t see it as a loss; rather, count yourself lucky that they showed their true colors before it was too late.
4. Do not give up on finding love.
Just face reality and let them go. Do not take this personally, and don’t generalize this experience. Don’t think that love has turned its back on you. Love will come into your life at the right moment. Do not give up.